  OK,  props to Kandace S.  again. she is a dear friend ( perhaps one of my dearest)  from high school,
 and the reason we get along so very well is because we think a lot alike. nbsp;  It scares most people,  including her ex- husband and my significant other,  but we don't mind. nbsp;  We think it's fun.  Anyway,  we e- mail each other a lot,  so much in fact it seems like instant messaging instead.
 Today,  we got on the subject on women's attire and what men like.
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 Keep in mind that both of us ( and probably many other readers of this)  are plus- sized,  beautiful women and were thin once back in the day so we know the gamut of what can/ cannot be worn.
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 We are also children of the 80's,  which signifies big hair,  tight straight- leg jeans,  and neon.
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 With all those qualifications,  she and I feel that we are pretty experienced and can comment knowledgably on stuff like this.
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 First,  let's discuss the concept of stiletto heels.
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 From my days in Italian class,  " stiletto"  is Italian for a certain type of knife,  and yes,  that's what they feel like when they're on.
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 Why men would want us to wear these shoes is beyond me.
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 First of all,  they're ultimately bad for your feet,  causing a woman to balance all her weight on one part of the foot as opposed to all the foot.
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 Yes,  I know Barbie wears high heels,  but she's also plastic,  weighs less than 2 lbs and has " made in Taiwan"  tattooed on her ass.
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 Do not bring that example before me because it's totally invalid.
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 The point I'm trying to make here is that wearing stilettos is on a par with foot- binding,  and how many women actually wear them all day long besides the chicks on " Sex and the City"  who are actresses and are able to put up their feet and/ or make emergency trips to the podiatrist every day?
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 I think I've made my point,  so let's move on.  Now,  how about pieces of clothing that have integral parts missing?
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 I. E.  crotchless panties,  bras with the nipple areas cut out,  belly shirts,  micro minis,  and the whole lot?
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 I wore some halfway revealing things in my time,  but nothing compared to this stuff.
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 It's like nobody has any imagination anymore -
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Please don't cover that up because we can't visualize it unless we actually see it.
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 It's the element of mystery that I would think is sexy. that's what I like,  anyway.
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 Whether you're straight,  gay,  bi,  dodecasexual,  you would think it would be the same. what fun is it to undress someone in your head if they're already halfway there?
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 That's like your mom handing you a halfway unwrapped Christmas present to save you the trouble.
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 Finally ( because I'm running out of time,  but I WILL continue this)  what's up with this " madonna/ whore"  complex that still runs rampant in this enlightened age?
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 I mean,  don't mix the genres.
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 If a woman is to look professional&
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to turn you on,  don't mix it with fishnet hose,  stilettos,  and something crotchless/ nipple- less/ otherwise not complete.
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 I can't control what turns someone on,  I realize,  but come on,  people!
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 How many investment bankers do YOU know that wear a micro- mini and red fishnets?
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 It's not practical,  and highly frowned upon with the FDIC,  I'm sure it is.  I'm sure I opened up a whole can of worms,  but that's what this is all about,  right?
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 Comments are welcome,  but no death threats,  please.
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 I've been through enough in my 35 years,  it wouldn't be fun to threaten me. unless you do so with fishnet stockings and stiletto heels.  Sudiegirl 
