  People annoy me...the older I get, the more introverted I become. I am really starting to believe it is because I am so easily annoyed with people... case in point: I have a friend that is getting a divorce.
She decided she didn't want to be married anymore, she wants to live the single life. Mind you, she just moved back in 9months ago (she had lived a year of separation with her hubby). I'm not trying to judge you but what do you mean you want to live the single life? She has fooled around on her hubby, she had a guy waiting in the wings for her...just say, I want to explore these other options.
Anyway...this new guy tells her he will call, tells her they will do lunch, etc and just doesn't follow through. 9 times out of 10, he's not following through. Now, she wants to piss and moan that he isn't following through (oh yeah, he has a wife and a baby too--though, I think they are separated, but not divorcing). Finally, I casually suggested that she should just write him off. I asked her why was she so drawn to him, they have only gone out half a dozen times.
She asked me what I meant...to which I responded, "My little sis has taught me a lot about dating, should I ever be out there again. If the guy doesn't treat you right, if he doesn't act like he should, or if the chemistry isn't there, cut him loose. Don't beat yourself up about it, it is simply two people that are not compatible with each other. " Which should be common sense, but I know for a lot of girls (myself being one of them) it really isn't...our emotions take over and the rational side of our brain goes on vacation.
It's not that easy...is what she responds with. I agree, if you aren't used to that, it isn't easy but it is the right thing. So she says "why do you think I'm so drawn to him? " Okay...lesson, if you ask me my opinion, I will be 150% honest with you....I try very hard to deliver it tactfully but I can't make any promises, therefore, if you don't want complete honesty, DON'T ASK!
To which I responded, I don't know if this is true, but from what I have seen, you seem to like the falling in love part and the new infatuation...but once that part of a relationship is over you seem to check out too. Yeah, I'm sure you can imagine, she didn't like that so much but she said, You're right. I never thought of it like that before but it is true. Dude, I'm really not out to be right...I just don't understand why you must bitch about something you are completely bringing on yourself.
SOOOOO...she goes into how she and one of our friend's ex-husbands are talking and she thinks he likes her...this is the SAME friend who dumped her best friend because she started dating her ex-husband. She is actually contemplating what she should do! She was the one who brings up, I don't want to be like C and steal someone's ex but what should I do? Is this really a question??? You just answered yourself! DON'T! You couldn't handle it so why would you risk a friendship expecting someone else to??? Lordy...stupidity bugs me... Other than that...CP and I are planning a trip to Chi-town for the end of the month.
Nothing major, just some shopping, some clubbing, and then home again. We'll stay over one night but I am so excited! K may come with us, though she gets very intimidated by large cities...so I don't know if she will chicken out or not. I so need a day away from everything...only a few more weeks!!
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