  So much of life is timing. If not for timing, many of our most significant events might not have occurred, or would have occurred differently. Many jobs are won or lost through the mere timing of it all, which can be frustrating to people.
On the upside, when timing prevents something from happening, you don't know that for sure - but when timing is on your side, it can be easy to see and give it all the credit. My point? I'm not sure I have one, except to say it's been coming up in a variety of ways the last few weeks, and it's just something to think about. Most people, I think, talk about timing in those two big areas - employment and relationships. As noted above, it can be hard to see when you miss out on a job because of bad timing. But often times, relationships are just the opposite. Whether you characterize it as "bad" or "good" timing is sort of subjective (because "bad timing" could have put you in or out of a relationship, but you'd only say that if you weren't happy about it or the eventual outcome), but you can spend a lot of time pondering the subject. More than most probably should. Because timing, you see, is irrelevent. We only get one pass at life - at any given situation, any given year - so discussion of missed opportunities or "bad timing" is almost useless beyond simple nostalgia. It's not "timing" - it's what happened . This is also why I don't believe in fate, by the way.
Timing and fate imply that things could have gone another way, and while obviously it could have gone another way, it didn't. Nothing goes two ways because life is linear, and the next opportunity, no matter how similar is never the same. This is not meant to be depressing, because even though fate and timing are bogus, if there's a connection, or a reason for two people to know each other, then even if you miss out on the first opportunity (or feel like you did), a true bond or connection will give you alternate "bites at the apple.
" It may not result in the same type of relationship (friends instead of more-than-friends, for instance), but the phrase "meant to be" can mean many, many things. The end result, in my opinion, is that you really must seize every opportunity to the utmost of your ability, because there are no second chances. There are other chances, but if you miss the first boat, the second one will always be different.
The "seize opportunity" idea doesn't always have to mean action, however. An interesting thing about hindsight is that it's not always "I should have acted! " but rather in some instances "thank God I didn't do X. " And that's exactly why timing and fate are crap: for every "missed opportunity" or instance of "bad timing," something good will happen that, with the introduction of hindsight into the mix, means all "bad timing" was oops, good timing!
Because if what you had wanted to work out had actually worked out, this "good event" wouldn't have occurred. But nobody can see those things coming, so in the end all you can do is live, and stop worrying about what should or shouldn't have happened.
ps.
Sacramento is a pretty nasty city. Boring and cold! 
